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Next week (Thursday) marks my entry into full time home-school mom and housewife!!!  I can't believe it's here already.  I must admit I am rather sad to see the career that I worked so hard to build come to an end however  I'm extreamly excited and nervous to be homeschooling my boys.  I feel great pressure to be the stereotypical stay at home mom.  I feel I'm always going to be compared to Carol Brady, Norma Arnold, and June Cleaver and expected to maintaining a perfectly clean home, never be impatient with the boys, and having diner on the table by 5. While I know this is impossible I feel like so many people look down on moms who stay home with the kids. So many people in this day and age feel that if a woman isn't working the house had better be spotless and she should always be happy and in a great mood because she doens't have to deal with going out into the world to earn a living.  The truth is I feel like staying at home is going to be just as hard if not harder than working!  I understood what I need to do in my job and I was good at it.  I enjoyed working with my peers some of whom became friends.  Staying at home with my children while wonderful feels like it's going to be confining me to four walls with no adult conversation.

I plan on joining a home-school group in my area to allow my children and myself to socialize with other families in the area. What are your thoughts about the opinions and responsibilities of stay at home parents?  Leave me a comment below. 

I am also wanting to purchase a curriculum to keep my children on track and where they should be.  Does anyone have any suggestions?

The end is almost here, time for a new beginning!

I am currently at T - 20 days and counting ( or right around there) until my job ends and I become a full time stay at home mom / homeschooling mom.  For the past month or so I've been working full time and doing homeschooling with my children on nights and weekends which has been such a challenge!! I am looking forward to the transition and being able to focus on my family full time!  I look forward to documenting my progress here as well as my YouTube channel! We have completed our move from the large home we had into a smaller home that we can afford on one income and I love it!  It's so much easier to clean!  :) The house we moved from is on the top and the house we have moved to is on the bottom.  I realize the bottom home looks the same size if not larger than the top but keep in mind it's a split level with all of he living space on the second story.

My youngest son who turns 4 this coming week needs help with his pronunciation and speech pattern.  He has a slight stutter. He had been going to speech therapy but I was told until he was around 4 there was no need so we stopped.  I plan on re-enrolling him in speech therapy next month but was wondering if anyone had any exercises I could do with him at home to help with his stutter. Please leave me comments if you have any ideas!

Requesting Homeschool Suggestions, Do's, and Don'ts

Hi all.   If you have reviewed my previous posts you know I am just beginning the process of homeschooling.   Please do me a favor when you visit this post and leave me suggestions in the comments section!!!   I would love any advice anyone has for me!!

Thanks!

Also I just realized I haven't posted any recent photos of my littles!!!

Meet my 5 year old Michael

...and my smallest little Tristan

Why We Made The Choice To Homeschool

My son has been diagnosed with ADHD and Pediatric Bi Polar Disorder.  He came into my home when he was about 18 months old. We have had many issues with the public school system and have ultimately decided it was in our sons best interest to pull him out.   The teachers did not seem to be trained to handle a child like ours.  Here is an example of what we saw:

We got a call and a letter home because our son spit on a child.  The school made a very big deal of it.  He was giving another child a zerbert and there was no intended bad behavior.  He was basically playing in a manner deemed inappropriate. We agreed with the school and counseled our son appropriately.    (Keep in mind the fact that we had talked to the school prior to this incident that our son had meltdowns when he thought there was something going on that was unfair. ) A few weeks later a child actually spit in our sons face.  No game or play intended.  Our son did what he was instructed to do and told a teacher.  The teacher said that it was no big deal and asked the other child to apologize to my son.   This of course kicked of a massive meltdown. He was upset because when he had spit even playing his parents were called and a meeting called and he was also put in time out. He was in all kids of trouble!  When another child spit on him it wasn't a big deal.

 We had noticed over time that the teachers began to not like our son and would let other children be mean to him because the couldn't be.  They would restrain him but would not lead him out out of the room by his hand or arm because they couldn't "touch" him.   Which made no sense since they would restrain him if he could be a danger to himself or others.   Why not walk him out the door to calm him down before an issue started!   They seemed want to get him out as quick as possible and  turned every issue he had into the biggest deal possible.  

Our  son is very bright but has a problem dealing with emotions.  He really tries to do the right thing but lacks coping skills needed to deal with problems and issues that come up in a classroom setting.

Big changes headed our way!!

So much has happened since our last post.  Our 5 year old has had some serious issues in school and we have made the decision to home school him.   This also means we will most likely be moving from a 2 income household to a 1 income household.  There are big changes on the horizon! I am hoping to document my progress here.

We will officially withdraw our son Friday (2/8/13) and will begin Monday (2/11/13) home school.  I am not 100% sure if we will do official lesson plans or do "online school".  I need to do a bit more research.   Today we submitted our "letter of intent" to the state of Georgia which is Georgia's requirement for parents who are going to home school.

Wish us luck!

Special Needs?!?!

A lot of the children that are in foster care are termed special needs.  Many of them do have some type of emotional issues but there not all as horrific as you would imagine.  When I heard the words “special needs” I was scared of what I might end up having to deal with.  In this post, I would like to tell you the reality of the special needs children I adopted.

My 3 year old is a ball of energy.  He’s bright, funny, and very outgoing!  He was placed into my home right out of the hospital at the age of 1 week.  He was termed special needs only because he was in care 2 years before his adoption proceedings began.  That’s it!  He was in my home his entire life, he has no emotional or behavioral issues and he was not traumatized because of a horrific event that might have happened in his life.  He is a normal, happy 3 year old.

My 5 year old was 1 when he came into care.  He was placed at another foster home before ours.  That family had a hard time dealing with him and asked that he be moved.  He has been diagnosed as having bipolar disorder as well as ADHD.  He was diagnosed at age 3, which is surprising to everyone.  He’s had severe behavior and emotional issues since he was placed into my home.  He has been through several daycares and schools because the schools were not equipped to deal with a child that had special needs like my sons.  Because of multiple reasons, our 5 year old was not released for adoption until he was 5.  He was in care much longer than most children normally are.  This had a great effect on our family as a whole.  Because we had to operate within the DFCS (Department of Family and Children Services) system that meant a lot of red tape and hoops to jump through.  It meant well-meaning caseworkers were pushing for him to be medicated before we were ready because the doctor offered it as a viable option.   When dealing with the foster care system you find that everyone has a different opinion and everyone thinks they are right but in the end, you’re the one that has to deal with the child!  J   When we decided to adopt our son we knew what all of his issues were and decided to move forward.  He is a joy and I wouldn’t have done anything different! He is one of the smartest children in his class and he has a wonderful sense of adventure.  We have no issues in the home environment but are still working out the kinks of school but the solutions we have put in place to help our son have greatly increased the possibility of a normal, productive, life. A life he might not have been able to have if someone didn’t take on the challenge of adopting a special needs child.

If you’re thinking of adoption I urge you to take a look at these children whom they title “special needs”.  Many of them have just been in the system for long periods of time or have emotional or behavioral problems that are not unsolvable. By giving these children a loving, stable environment you give them a chance at a  wonderful, normal life!

What do you think about special needs adoption?  Do you have any adoption stories?  Please share them by leaving me a comment!

10 Adoption Facts

I found these adoption facts on Superpages.com and I thought I'd share them.....

 

1. In the U.S. the average age for prospective adoptive parents is the late 30s to middle 40s.


2. The largest adoptive parent group is couples who have been married for three years or longer. Even though this is still the norm, interracial, single-parent, and gay-parent adoptions are gaining in popularity.


3. Adoption laws in the U.S. are enacted and monitored by the states. This means that the laws can vary quite a bit from one state to another. Laws can change too. If you're planning on adopting, it pays to do your homework and stay current on changing trends.


4. There are typically two broad categories of adoption, open and closed. A closed adoption is one in which the identities of the parties involved are withheld. In an open (or semi-open) adoption, certain information is shared. What and how much can vary from state to state and agency to agency. There are advantages and disadvantages to either method. The trick is to find an agency and process that works for you.


5. State adoption agencies are usually of two types, public and private. Public agencies are run by the states themselves, where private agencies are only licensed by the states. Public agencies typically have lower costs involved in adoption where private agencies can sometimes charge a great deal.


6. Adopted children can and often do grow up well-adjusted and happy. A 1994 study conducted by the Search Institute in Minneapolis evaluated 881 adopted adolescents and their adoptive parents over four years. The teens scored higher than their non-adopted counterparts in caring and social competency.


7. Although there may be lots of reasons to adopt a child, the overwhelming motivator in 95 percent of cases is infertility.


8. The average adoption takes -- well, there is no average adoption time frame. Times can vary anywhere from a few months to five years or more depending on the circumstances.


9. As of the 2000 census, about 1.6 million children in the U.S. under the age of 18 were adopted. Of those, around 98,000 were one year old or less (this includes foreign adoptions).


10. Using those same 2000 census figures, there were almost a half-million adopted adults living in the U.S. (473,000).

I thought a lot of these facts were interesting.   I love fact number 6!   I pray my children group happy and well=adjusted!   I think the biggest fear of every adopted parent is if your child will identify with you when it's grown and still consider me his or her parent.  I think in most cases the answer is YES!!!  Fear not and trust in GOD!!  Everything happens for a reason.   :)